Hi, there! I’m Robin,
a Resilience & Divorce Recovery Coach specializing in helping Midlife women (40+) stop living in survival mode from a traumatic past, redefine their purpose, create fulfilling relationships, and confidently embrace new roles aligned with their passions and pursuit of excellence.
Extensive leadership training, motivational techniques, breaking down limiting beliefs and barriers, and specialized trauma therapies all mesh together to provide a full-service coaching experience for you.
I Help Midlife Women Who Feel Burned Out, Overwhelmed, or are Suffering a Crisis of Confidence
to understand that their patterns of staying busy, pretending to be perfect, isolating and never asking for help, hiding emotions, staying detached in relationships, always putting others first, and living with constant high anxiety are perfectly understandable and perfectly valid adaptive mechanisms. However, these patterns eventually cause problems.
Midlife is Commonly a Time for Reflecting on One’s Life Journey
Midlife sure brings a lot of changes. It’s when the kids have grown up and the house gets quieter. We might start facing new health issues that make us rethink how we take care of ourselves. Sometimes, we even have to start helping our aging parents more.
As these changes happen, it can feel harder to handle stress, and we might feel more emotionally drained. It's common for old traumas to resurface during this time, as the quiet and changes make us reflect more deeply on our past. It's normal to feel lost or unsure during this time. But remember, midlife is also a chance to discover new things about ourselves and find joy in new beginnings.
My Clients Notice Memories or Feelings from Childhood or Old Trauma
These unresolved feelings, once manageable, now negatively influence their well-being and relationships.
Fortunately, this period also brings the opportunity and resources to significantly enhance their physical, emotional, and mental health. By addressing and healing these parts of themselves, they can move forward into a healthier and more fulfilling future. This is not just a time of change but a chance for profound personal growth and renewal.
This is Where a Gentle and Trusted Professional Like Myself, Someone with Extensive Experience in Trauma Healing,
Can provide a safe and judgment-free space to process old patterns and make sense of a shifting world. Together, my clients and I work in partnership to help reimagine themselves and their lives through a whole new lens.
A lens that feels lighter, happier, and more aligned with their purpose and passions. This perspective enables them to trust others, be their authentic selves, and approach life with confidence and excitement.
They become free to show emotions, set boundaries, and walk away from toxic relationships. They stop allowing partners to cheat on or lie to them. They learn to state their needs and wants and find ways to get them met. They can accept new circumstances or changing health and repair their primary relationships.
Finally Free to Be Their True Selves and Make Their Own Choices
I was drawn to this work because I’ve experienced my own cycles of self-sabotage. Healing these has led me on a path of growth, freedom, and deep personal peace.
I Grew Up in a Time When Girls Were Taught to Always Be Nice and Follow the Rules
Girls were often judged as wrong or bad if they didn’t conform, and many, including myself, were taught to be the "good girl." This involved celebrating positive emotions while suppressing the more challenging ones, leading to a pattern of disconnection from self and an imbalance of power in relationships.
Many learned to fit the "good girl" mold, avoiding conflict to maintain peace and often bending over backward to please others. This behavior encouraged adapting to any environment and losing touch with one's authentic self in the process.
The Transformation in My Adult Years
During college, I noticed an intense desire to start challenging my fears and seeking adventure. I put a career in social work on hold to become an Air Force Pilot, becoming the first woman to pilot an aircraft in my unit. I spent the next 21 years challenging traditional views of what women could do and found my place.
During that time, I also became a mom to two boys and experienced the difficulties of divorce while learning to be a high-achieving professional and single mother simultaneously.
As those challenges began to wind down and I faced my children finishing high school and the onset of midlife, I felt drawn back to working with people, helping them reach their dreams and overcome difficulties in their lives. That’s how I ended up as a midlife empty-nester providing trauma-based coaching to other women and men who are going through tough circumstances like I did.
Early Career Working with Trauma
When I started my career as a licensed counselor, I worked with kids who came from tough backgrounds—filled with trauma and very challenging family situations. Time and again, I saw how deep the scars could go if that trauma wasn’t addressed early on. These kids often physically felt the rush of intense emotions but didn’t know how to manage them because they lacked proper guidance on coping mechanisms.
Out of frustration with not having enough tools to help and reduce the impact of unprocessed trauma, I discovered EMDR therapy. Over several years, I developed methods that provided relief for people's minds and bodies from old traumas they had stored away for years, which now seemed to be resurfacing in their lives.
As a coach, I have seen how helpful these trauma-based approaches can be in any situation, including your current stressors and with future goals.
I Choose Now To Specialize in Brain-Based Models Like EMDR and Brainspotting
Because, while just talking about our past trauma used to be the gold standard, we now know that it isn’t a complete solution to trauma. Trauma is stored in the body, so you can’t just talk yourself out of it. We must dig deeper to get to the root of the current trauma symptoms.
Through my own journey and that of hundreds of clients, I have seen firsthand that learning calming skills like deep breathing, grounding, and relaxing the body can help regulate our nervous system and clear stuckness from the body—resulting in exponential improvements in our quality of life.
My Favorite Parts of Being a Coach Include
Seeing the look of happiness on a client’s face as they recount standing their ground, keeping the boundary, taking care of their own needs first.
Witnessing profound shifts in self-worth and identity that open up when a woman sees why her recurring patterns were created, and she moves from self-blame and anger to a deep sense of compassion for her younger self.
Walking alongside a client as she truly appreciates how missing key important lessons in childhood left cracks in her sense of self, and all the surface issues shift when these root causes are repaired.
Seeing the light bulb come on when she realizes those feelings of defectiveness, unworthiness, or being unlovable were just old stories out of someone else’s version of the world, and they no longer hold their power.
Sensing the physical shift when the trauma response from a single event like an accident, attack, or sudden death is gently and completely released from the body, leaving her calm and free from that high state of on-guard hyperarousal.
If You’re a Woman Who:
✔ Has been taught that playing the good girl, perfectionist, or high-functioning caretaker role is the only way you’ll receive love and approval.
✔ Is suffering from ongoing surface symptoms like stress, fatigue, and brain fog, and are oh so ready to get to the root of the problem.
✔ Continues to create unbalanced or unhealthy relationships and attract toxic, narcissistic, or otherwise abusive partners.
✔ Has a deafening Self-Doubting or Imposter Syndrome part always nagging at you, never letting you rest or play.
✔ Has difficulty with setting and keeping boundaries, and would rather shut down or run than stand your ground.
✔ Is scared or unable to ask for help because you feel unworthy of care or unable to admit you need it or…
✔ No matter what your life circumstances are, believe that there is something inherently flawed, unworthy or unlovable about you.
You’re In The Right Place
Because I’ve been there, I’ve guided myself and many other midlife clients back to their true selves, and I know this path is available for you too.
It took me years to start therapy and recognize my own patterns and hiding my true self.
In the safe space my therapist created, I slowly but surely came to understand how my own ways of dealing with stress, life, and partners were creating blocks in my life.
Understanding where these patterns came from was a true turning point for me.
And freeing myself from these patterns?
Well, that was the beginning of my own transformation.
What now? I’m embracing the opportunities midlife brings and accepting that change is just a part of life.
And you can be too—come find out how we can partner together.
